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Turn Your Bad Days Into Good Days
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August 2008

        Have you ever noticed that when you are not feeling your best emotionally you tend to have a bad day entirely. We all face challenges on a daily bases. From the mean boss at work, the co-worker who expects you to do all the work, the husband, roommate or significant other who doesn't do the dishes, the child that's rebellious, to the long agonizing drives home. Our days are busy, overwhelming and sometimes horrible.

        If you let a bad situation effect you, you may find yourself not feeling energetic in accomplishing your tasks, your ideas may seem not worth any attention, you may become shy and not expressive, you may crush building blocks to heighten you career, or feel aggravated or distressed.

        Controlling your thoughts, emotions, and actions can profoundly change the outcome of your day. The keys to turning any frown upside down is not to focus on the negatives but the positives.

        During these long hours while you may be at work or doing any other activity you've scheduled in your day, you have full control of what you do through out the day. Always keep in mind that you have full control of your thoughts, emotions, and actions. You will be the one making thought-provoking and emotional decisions (leading to actions) that will not only affect the rest of your day but perhaps the next day, week, month or even the next year(s).

Speak Up

Don't be afraid to say what you think and how you are feel. However, don't speak your mind the second you get angry or hurt. Think things through so you don't say something you might regret.

Smile

Smiling can really change a frowning day into a smiling day (it's contagious too. You might just make someone else's day. :)

Be Patient & Understanding
People make mistakes and sometimes you may be offended, but don't be. Remember, you control your thoughts and emotions. Also, be willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. They may be having a bad day and don't know any other way (or the proper way) of dealing with their thoughts and emotions. Also be sympathetic, lending a hand to assist others (if you can) but don't let anyone take advantage of you.

Forgive

Forgiveness can heal you more then the person who wronged you. You will feel a sense of peace. Who wants to be miserable because of someone's actions. Don't hold a grudge.

Relax
Worrying will only stress you out. So, just relax. A great way to overcome tension and relax is to hum. Hum your favorite song. Humming helps to relax the mind, ease tension, warm your body and can really put you in a good mood. No matter how trying the day might be, take it easy.

Do Your Best
Once you know you have done all you can, be happy with your progress. Don't put emphasis on "what you could have done".

Even if you feel as if though your day started out bad that doesn't mean that it has to end that way. Find a way to change your view by trying any of the above. Decide now not to let anything effect your good day, regardless of the situation.




Live The Happy Life You Want Today
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July 2009

Some of us have everything that we can dream of while others may still be waiting, hoping or actually pursuing life goals. Whether you are striving for improvement or have already achieved all your goals, we all have something in common, and that is the right to be happy just as we are. Find ways to be happy just the way things are today.

Take Charge Of Your Life
No matter what happens in your life it is up to you to determine how it will affect you. Find happiness even in trials. No matter what happens, happiness can be yours by the way you live on a day to day basis.

Don't Rely Totally On Something Or Someone
Never rely on someone else to bring you happiness. Happiness is yours today. If you wait for others to bring your happiness you may never truly be happy.

Live Life To The Fullest
Learn to live with a sense of fulfillment. Be fulfilled in who you are. Feel complete even if you feel you are lacking something. Start to see yourself a s a complete individual. Know that nothing is impossible. You can do what ever you want. Pursue your goals fully without any doubts.

Be A Happy You
Remember that just being you will give you the happiness to do and to act. You are blessed with so many talents and gifts. Be happy for being you. Be happy for all that you have and all that you have to offer others.

Gain The Courage To Overcome All
Learn to move on with your life. Don't confine yourself in a state of unhappiness. Once you have gone through a situation learn from it and move forward. Although, it may take sometime to over come certain obstacles, yet your goal should always be to deal with the situation, learn from it and move forward to a brighter future.

Remain Positive
No matter where we may be in our own progression we all face obstacles, challenges, and trials.  Learning to remain positive and optimistic is crucial. In the end, being happy just the way things are is the ultimate success anyone can posses in life.

Make A Commitment To Be Happy
Although challenges will come you can still commit to happiness. Preparing for challenges will help you know that there will be hard times ahead but they will eventually come to an end. Be ready to face your trials and challenges with the faith to overcome.

Tips: Focus on what brings you happiness. Read other Esteem Yourself articles for more information on how to implement right strategies to being happy today.

Read more articles on living happy today below:
Trials Of Happiness
Turn Bad Days Into Good




I Love Me Right Now!
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June 2009

We sometimes depend so much on how others see us or what others say about us in order to determine who we are or interpret the way we feel about ourselves. You will find that deciding to listen to what others are saying in order to define yourself can be exhausting, results in a negative outcome and destructive to yourself esteem and confidence. Finding who you are should solely depend on you rather then what others may say or think.

Telling people who you are by being just as you are. Loving yourself today starts with you telling the world, "This is me. Take me as I am!".

Appreciate Yourself
Appreciate yourself completely. This includes appreciating your trails and errors. Love yourself just as you are. You have a divine role as a woman. You are a beautiful strong woman. You have been blessed with many talents and gifts. You are a unique individual with so much to give. Love the woman you are today. Be confident in yourself and find ways to express yourself and share you gifts.

Laugh At Yourself
When you think back to something that you did that was embarrassing do you tend to punish yourself? Remember that we all make embarrassing mistakes. We all fall hard at times. It's fine to laugh at yourself, learning is wonderful and embracing your life completely is amazing. Laugh is a great away to let go of issues and problems. It can also be a healing process. Don't take yourself so seriously. Make time to laugh at your struggles and the things that have you have grown from. Enjoy yourself, including the clumsy you.

Comfort Yourself
When your struggling or going through hard times you can learn to encourage yourself of a better tomorrow. Learn to embrace yourself and find power within. Letting other comfort you can work wonders, however, giving yourself a reassurance that it things will work out can really strengthen your esteem and give you  power and strength.

Do It Yourself
Don't expect others to do things for you. Be in charge and in control of what happens around you. Take initiative. Take control. Learn to do thing on your own and be empowered buy having the skills to get thing accomplished. Be assertive. Take charge of today and live your better tomorrow.

Back Pat Yourself
When you accomplish or achieve something that you have worked hard for give yourself a big pat on the back. You are a hard worker and you deserve to enjoy success. Go out with a close friend(s) and celebrate your achievements.

Stand for Yourself
When someone is right about something learn to take correction and build yourself. We are all learning each day. Learn to better yourself. However, always stand for your self in dignity. Be firm in who you are and what makes you a strong woman. Don't let others push your around. Stand for what you believe in and what you believe to be right. Don't let anyone else other then yourself determine who you are, who you should be or what you do. You are the only one that can make yourself happy and can keep yourself happy. Be free to choose what you want in your life. No matter what you choose make choices that will lead you to a better future and a better you. Don't settle for less.




Your Beauty. Your Power. Your Soul.
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May 2009

Do you know your beauty? Have you embraced your power? As women we are so divine yet we take our beauty, power and soul for granted. Below are three questions that every woman should ask themselves. Esteem yourself today by fully embracing your beauty, your power, and your soul.

Your Beauty
You are a woman who is unique in so many ways. Your beauty and your elegance is yours truly. Through your talents,your personal style, you can share your beauty with the world. What makes you beautiful?

Your Power
The power of a woman is clearly misrepresented many times in our society. Women are the backbone of our society. We make the world thrive. It is because of women that families are sustained and love grows. Be proud to be a woman and celebrate your womanhood.

Your Soul
The soul of a woman is full of love, mercy, patience, and kindness. Our tender love and constant nature to share our love with those around us makes us the great women we are. As you share your beautiful powerful nature, make sure to share it with the person that needs it the most. Yourself.

Take sometime to make a list of what makes you the amazing woman
you are.


Your Beauty. Your Power. Your Soul.
Questionnaire

Do you know your beauty?
What makes you beautiful?

Have you embraced your power?
What empowers you as a woman?

How can you show yourself how beautiful and powerful you are?
What have you done to appreciate yourself?

Print out your own Your Beauty. Your Power Your Soul chart
questioner click here.




Finding Solutions
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April 2009


There are going to be times in your life when what you want may not be what you get. In addition, there will be good days and bad. However, at times the bad days may seem overwhelming. When this happens learning to deal with the changes may not be so easy. Find out ways to cope and ways to brighten your horizon by simply taking a few steps back and evaluating the situation to find a positive resolution.

For a simple situation you may find it easy to write down how you feel and how to overcome. Use this questionnaire to help you resolve simple situations.

Finding Solution Questionnaire

What happened?
How does this make you feel & Why?
How can you overcome it? What are you doing to overcome it?

An example of how to fill out the Finding Solution Questionnaire.
 
What happened?
I didn't get the job I applied for. It went to someone else in my office. I have been working towards this promotion for such a long time now. I guess it was not for me after all.

How does this make you feel & Why?
Frustrated and very disappointed. I think that I have worked really hard in my current position and definitely deserve this new one.

How can you overcome it? What are you doing to overcome it?
I have been talking to my best friend about the situation. Of course she is encouraging but it has been really hard not to just quit. I have decided to start looking for a new job. I think it's time I get paid what I deserve and find the right job. However, I know that job searching is difficult so for now while looking I will stay positive and motivated to do the best I can do at work and take it one day at a time.

Note: Use this assessment tool to help you find balance in finding solutions. However, this is not for serious therapeutic situations. Talk to a therapist if your situation is of a serious nature or if you find your situation unbearable. Don't wait to consult a doctor. Take the appropriate actions to overcome any obstacle.

Print out the Finding Solution Questionnaire by clicking here.




5 Ways To Enrich Your Life
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Spend Time With Family
We tend to spend hours at the office, but when it comes to spending time with loved ones we have little time to spare. Find time to spend with those you love.

Learn to Learn
Continue to grow by learning something new everyday. Be humble and ready to embrace the world and all the good things it has to offer. Life has so much to offer and you are able to learn not only from it but also from the experiences you gain. 

Find  A Friend To Lean On
Life is so much fun when you have a great friend to share it with. Take advantage of the good friends that care about you. Share you success and struggles with them. Of course friendship is fifty-fifty, so as you lean on your friends they will lean on you too, sharing their experiences with you as well.

Talk To Yourself
It may seem silly but talking to yourself is healthy. It gives you a chance to express yourself. Don't over do it. Otherwise people who don't know you will think that your crazy. A whisper here and there won't hurt.

Find Joy In Everything
No matter your troubles find joy in every trail and every struggle. It's part of your life experience and you will have a world of experience and strength to give to others as you overcome.

Live Your Dreams
Look to the future with the desire to accomplish. Strive for your dreams and let know one stop you from achieving. Success is up to you. Never ever quit.




Dance To Your Own Tune
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February 2009

Isn't it great to be a unique individual? This is something that we all should be proud of, however, at times we may feel too different, misunderstood or inadequate. These feelings are not easy to combat but you can assure yourself that you can find solutions and resolve these challenges.

Just Simply Be
Always remember that being different is a good thing. This is why we are all special. Because we have something unique to offer. If we were all made the same the world would be such a boring place. Take advantage of your uniqueness. Be proud of yourself and don't allow anyone else to tell you who you are.

Invest In Yourself
Sometimes we do things to please others and not to please ourselves. We forget about our own wants and our own goals. Instead we focus on accomplishing other people's goals, in order to fit in. Stop investing in other people and invest and impress yourself. Break this pattern by setting goals that you want to achieve. Not goals others want you to achieve. Look out for your own happiness. Be a strong and confident woman. Know your strengths and use them to your advantage, to strengthen your self-esteem. Improve your skills so you can build you confidence.

Accepting Yourself
No matter what other people may think or say about you what counts is what you think about yourself. If you don't accept yourself just as you are, how do you except others to accept you? You have to be able to love yourself regardless of what others might say or think. Don't waste another second thinking or feeling that you are not good enough, unwanted, unsuccessful. It is simply not true. You are as good enough as anyone out there. You are as beautiful as anyone out there. You are amazing!

Permission To Be You
You don't need permission to be you. No one can tell you that you cannot succeed. No one can tell you that you are not worth it. No one can tell you that you are not beautiful or smart. No one can tell you that you are not special. Love yourself unconditionally no matter what. But if you need permission, Esteem Yourself give you the full right to be you, completely. To love yourself completely.

Tip: Find many tools, solutions and unique ways to esteem yourself by visiting the tool page.




A Joyous Work Experience
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January 2009

We all know someone that just doesn't like what they do for a living. That person might even be us. Some people dread weekday mornings while others might just not feel fulfilled with the tasks that face them on a daily basis. Eliminate work frustrations, boredom and the constant search for a better job by finding the right profession that will give you peace, joy and a sense of pride.

Career Evaluation
Evaluating your interests and skills is important in finding the right occupation for you. Working in the field where your interest lies can give you a sense of pride and fulfillment. It is best to focus on the type of career that will first give you joy and then financial security. Many times we focus  our efforts on financial stability instead of the right job that will provide a fulfillment of interest. Entry level positions may not give you financial stability, there is hope. Many occupations have advancement opportunities and possibilities, where can work up to your desired income. Of course, to some people  financial stability is more important then focusing on desired career path.

Below are some self evaluation tips to help give that "someone" a boost at getting them on the right track. If that someone is you, then you are just a few steps to enriching your career path.

Focus
Write down your likes and interest. Remember that focusing on your likes will help you have a successful evaluation. For example if you like working with kids but don't like working with parents you should note it in your evaluation.

Rating  Your Likes
During your evaluation it is important to keep track of your likes by creating a rating system. Stick to 1-10. 10 being the most liked and 1 being the most disliked. As you search for a career that deal with your likes use your rating system to help you narrow in on the most desirable job for you. By using the rating system, at the end of your evaluation you can easily filter through what interest you can and can not compromise on.

Fits Like A Glove
With your evaluation completed, searching for jobs that match your outlined interest is crucial. It might take you time to find the job that is the right fit. Remember to fully take advantage of your career evaluation by continuously looking for the right job that makes you feel comfortable and focuses on your interests.

Acquiring More Knowledge
There are many professions that require very little training, while others may require many years of training. It is important that you search thoroughly in finding work that is tailored to your interest. However, if you find that the job you so desire most requires you to attend school then you will need to decide if you can, or willing and able to do so. If you can attend school  but are financially unable to do so look into finding ways to help you reach your goal. Search for scholarships, assistance and grants can be your starting point. You always have the option of paying for school through internship or taking limited amount of classes to limit the cost. If you feel you are not willing to step into the school setting then find other jobs that meet your interest that require less training.

Be Open-minded
Sometimes we miss great opportunities by dismissing occupations that we think we don't qualify for or would not enjoy. We may feel that our interest are set and unchangeable, thus and there by we become closed-minded. Do not be close-mined to opportunities, other interests and other venues of getting us the our desired job.

You are more likely to be a better worker when we do what we love to do. You are also more likely to live happier when you are engaged in work that gives you peace, security and a sense of accomplishment.



Ten Ways To Believe In Yourself
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December 2008

Believing in yourself is critical to being a confident woman. Building confidence will help you understand who you are, strengthen your abilities and assist you in the pursuit of your goals. Learn how to build confidence and believe in yourself by taking simple approaches. 

Know who you are, why you are special and what makes you a
beautiful strong individual.

Cherish your gifts, talents and skills. Make them a part of your daily life. Use them to esteem yourself, inspire and serve others.

Love learning and gain knowledge that can brighten your life and broaden
your horizon.  

Speak your mind and let yourself be heard. Find boldness within to
stand up for yourself.

Know that you deserve the best that life can offer. Don't settle for
what you do not want.

Use words of affirmation to help you build strength, courage and give
you a firm foundation.

Earn respect by what you wear, what you do and how
you live your life.

Be honest, trustworthy, and a good example of what a great woman should be so others may follow.

Be zealous in your efforts to overcome obstacles and strive for sucess.

 Love who you, your uniqueness and except yourself just as you are.




Trials of Happiness
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November 2008

Happiness is not always so easy to grasp especially when unhappy times present themselves. However, without knowing what it feels like to have times of sadness, we wouldn't be able to appreciate happiness and embrace life completely. Looking for the good in everything is key to making any obstacle easy whether the moment presents us with a happy or sad face.

Controlling Thoughts/Thinking Happy
A great way to transition from unhappy situations involves self control. Knowing that you can control how you feel about what happens around you. No matter what you may be going through it is crucial to stay focus on positives and happy thoughts. Be optimistic, think of better times, and focus on your blessing and achievement.

Addressing Situations
When you start to dwell on unhappy circumstances you become consumed by the pain, anger or sadness. These feelings can drain you and make you fee unable to assume a happy and joyful life. In turn, you may keep yourself in this state determining that you have no joy that awaits. This frame of mind can hamper your development and keep you from overcoming feelings of sadness. However, addressing the situation immediately and dealing with your feelings will help you move forward.

Reverse Unhappy Thoughts
When you begin to think unhappy thoughts the best step to take is to reverse the thought. For instance, if you are studying for an examination, you might be feeling frightened and nervous. Reverse your thoughts of not doing well by using words of affirmation and control your nerves by practicing calming exercises before you approach the podium.

A Bright Future
Though the present may not seem so blissful it doesn't mean the future will not be. As with any obstacle, they come and go and you gain knowledge and  experience. You also become strengthened and gain determination to overcome any obstacle. Think of it this way, the best is yet to come. No matter what you are going through look forward to a bright future.

Overcoming
We all go through obstacles but with determination we overcome. Regardless of what burdens, troubles or worries you face you will have the strength to overcome it. Remember that in addition to steps to happiness and other tools, finding good friends, family members and professionals you can overcome any obstacles. As you grow, sharing it with others will give you an opportunity to help others be strengthened in their adversities and build their confidence.




Love Yourself Five Times A Day
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October 2008

With so much to do we tend to lose track of our own needs and wants. Most important of all we forget  to give ourselves some good old TLC. Load the love back on by taking five easy steps to loving yourself. These steps are a great way to recharge your battery for a new day, every day.

Personality
What do you find about your personality that makes? Your charm, your enthusiasm, etc. Name a personality trait that you have, that you love and think about how it has brighten your life.

Goals
Name a goal that you have accomplished? Rejoice in your accomplishments. Feel free to brag about them. Yes that means brag, brag and brag some more.

Features
Your eyes sparkle, your nose is cute as a button, your smile lights up the room. Name one of your favorite feature and accent it. For example if your eyes are one of your favorite features make them shine with makeup or simply in indulge in how beautiful it is.

Talents/Skills
Name a talent of yours. Set a date, time and place to build your talent. Enjoy the wonders of also finding new talents.

Family/Friends
Name a family member/friend that has esteemed you. A family member/friend that you feel confident or loved around. Go spend some quality time with that particular person and stay as long as possible. Express your gratitude for them.




Is Your Joy Blossoming?
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September 2008

The joys of our life can be seen as a flower that blossoms with each passing day. However, at times we may take our joys for granted, wish for other's joys or simply not realize what joys we have and how blessed we are. In turn, we focus on the bad (the negative) experiences, the good (the positive) ones go unnoticed, and eventually slowly diminishes. Learn to appreciate and cherish your blessing, find joy and happiness in your everyday experiences. Every time joy comes into your life plant it mentally in your heart, mind and soul. Water it and let it grow.

Plant Joy
When something bad happens we tend to focus on it, letting a gloomy cloud cover us completely. We may even wallow in the problem, dragging it as long as we can. Yet, often we don't use the same strategy for good experiences. Instead, we let the happy sunshine come and go as if it barely came. Learning to change the way we view both good and bad experience scan tremendously change the way we respond to situations and events. Of course, we need to express ourselves and fully process all negative experience, nevertheless, more important is the way we respond to positive experiences. Every positive experience needs to be embraced and we need to fully partake the joy it brings. In essence, we need to soak it, living within the moment. Master the ability to focus on the good experiences and let it fill you with love, gratitude, and joy.

- Notice happy & joyous moments
- Take part in the fun
- Show Your Emotions (don't hold back)
- Enjoy it completely

Water Joy
Keep the positive experiences fresh in your memory by take account of the things that bring you joy right as they happen. Notice and remember details. Find ways to count your blessing and keep you happy moments eternal and be ready to store them for days of negative experiences.

- Photos: Always have a camera handy and use it. Even if you are lazy about it be ready to capture moments of happiness.
- Video camera: There is nothing more precious then seeing a tape of great events. It's like reliving that day all over again.
- Journals: Write write write. Keep a journal or dairy and write in detail of what happened and how you felt.

Let Joy Grow
Knowing what matters to you and what makes you happy will assist you in building joy. You may have to evaluate what makes you happy and come up with ways to achieve happiness. For example, if family time gives you great happiness, then planning family time and activities can be your way of bringing more joy in your life and letting your joy blossom. So, search and seek for things of interest to you (that makes you the happiest.

- Count your many blessings (every single one)
- Find gratitude in all things
- Be Optimistic
- Pull out your journal, photos, videos and watch you joyous occasions.
- Share stories and reminisce
- Plan joyful and happy occasions and create more joy

Be Joyous for Others
Finding joy also includes being happy for other's joys. When your happy for others their joy will also make you feel good, in turn, you will completely feel their joy as if it were your own personal joy. You will then appreciate the joys that you have and wish others joy as well.

- Serves, giving joy to others
- Wish others well
- Think positive of others




Finding Strength In Others
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August 2008

Have you ever heard that whatever you do comes back to you? Or that positive attracts positive? Whether you believe this or not, doing good deeds and encouraging others to succeed can definitely benefit you in many ways. By learning to implement the strategies that are listed below, you will be able to learn to rejoice in others' accomplishments, assist others in growth and success, embrace others' talents, compliment others and wish them well. With the proper attitude and mind-set, you can enrich your life by finding strength through other people's joys. You will also notice a ripple effect as you start to live with a positive view of those that surround you.


Embrace Others
Do you compare yourself to others?
Sometimes admiring others' gifts, talents, beauty and accomplishments can make you feel inadequate. When doing so, you begin to wish and envy, taking for granted your own blessings and gifts. You may begin to feel resentment and anger towards others which may result in a negative mind-set. Also, by comparing yourself, you eventually eliminate what you have. By so doing, your own talents may even begin to diminish. As individuals, as sisters and as women, we need to learn to embrace our differences and feel united with one another. We all have our talents and gifts, our own unique beauty and qualities. Each one of us is different. So, instead of trying to compare yourself to others, complement others and be proud of others. Find joy in others' gifts, talents. Find admiration in others' beauty and accomplishments.


Find Joy In Others
When someone has good news how does it make you feel?
 Try to avoid negative feelings or jealousy for others. Feeling jealous can be unhealthy. Wishing bad to others is damaging. Even if someone offended you, only you can control your emotions. If ever you begin to feel a sense of angry and jealousy, stop yourself. Decide immediately that you will simply try to have a positive attitude towards them. Stay away from gossiping or slandering their name. Just as you wouldn't want someone else to think negatively about you, it is important that we care for others and wish them well.

Be Happy for Others
Do you desire for others to succeed?
 Some people are inclined not to help their fellow (wo)men and would rather see them fail in their endeavors. This type of thinking is very selfish. When someone achieves a gaol or something good happens to them, you should be happy for them. Finding joy in others' happiness and success is away to obtain happiness for yourself. It' like having a ray of sunshine. When others progress ,you rejoice in their progression as if it were your own. Not only will you be filled with joy in your heart, it will also influence you and encourage you to strive for your own goals. The sunshine spreads and gives you motivations and inspiration to succeed. As you care for others and wish them well you will have compassion for them. You will feel their pain when the struggle and you will be in a joyous mood when they succeed.

Assist Others
Are you helpful in assisting others become better?
Never underestimate the act of service. You have a lot to share and give. There are many who seek to be enriched by you through your talents and skills. No matter your talent you can be a teacher and aid in the development of others. Aid others as they reach for their goals and dreams. Find ways to assist others and build them so they can reach for their goals.  As you assist others in becoming their best, you will find that you are growing from your service experience and will find joy when they succeed.




Personal Goal Questioner
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July 2008

Have you kept your new year's resolutions? This year is going by so fast but some of us might find ourselves not even close to accomplishing our resolutions or goals that we set in January. Whether you set a goal for this year, last year or anytime before, get back on track! Evaluate your goals and keep track of them from today. You can download the Personal Goal Questioner by clicking here.

Improving
What do you feel you need to improve on?
Why do you think you need to improve on these areas?
What can you do to improve physically?
What can you do to improve mentally?
What can you do to improve emotionally?
Always continue to strive for improvement.

Weak Links
What are your greatest fears?
What are your weakness?
Turn your weakness into strengths by tackling them one at a time. Never be afraid to try.


Your Unique
What makes you unique?
Your uniqueness defines you. You are one of a kind.


Goals & Dreams
What are your goals & dreams?
What are your strengths?
Let your strengths inspire you. Look forwards to accomplishing your dreams.




Happiness Is Almost Here?
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June 2008

Many people keep looking to be happy later. They may say to themselves, "Once this happens, then I will be happy." What are you waiting for to make you happy? A better career, a better home, a better companion or a better you? In our society today, we are able to get what we want usually when we want it. Living in a microwave-like society also has its drawbacks and can have a negative impact on our happiness. Since we have the pleasure to receive many items quickly, it may seem as though happiness should come to us and should be here immediately.  However, happiness is not just something that we need to create ourselves, it is something that we have to accept today.

Learning to Accept
Accepting Others
Sometimes we expect those around us to make us happy. We may either rely on other people's happiness, expect those around us to change in order to find happiness for ourselves or we wait to find that "special" person that will come into our lives and bring us happiness that never ends or fails. However,  no one else (except ourselves) can offer us never-ending happiness no matter the situation.

Waiting For That "Special" Person
 Thinking that sooner or later a "special" individual (such as a spouse) will bring happiness your way is not true. If you believe that you will find happiness when someone comes into your life, you may realize that you may remain unhappy with or without the "special" person, until you begin to find that joy inside. Just as you have to love yourself before you can truly love others, you have to be happy with yourself before you can be fully content with others. Being happy now just as you are will actually have a positive influence on your relationships, whether it's with your spouse, other family members or friends (this theory also works vice-versa ).

Other Individual's Happiness
Relying on other individuals to fulfill our happiness is faulty and not realistic. No one is perfect and can please you one hundred percent of the time. You must find happiness within ourselves. Only we can control our own thoughts, emotions and deeds.

Expecting Others To Change
Relying on them to change in order to gain happiness is a losing battle. Even if they were to change, you may still be unhappy, for happiness doesn't lie with their change but within yourself. Find happiness by making the necessary changes in your own life. Remember that it is in your power to take charge of those situations that may make you unhappy. Take charge of your life and control what happens around you. Create the atmosphere of happiness that you long for today.

Accepting Ourselves
A great way to implement happiness into your life is to accept yourself just as you are. This may be difficult to do at first) since we tend to not see how wonderful we are and all that we have to offer. Be happy just as you are. Strive to achieve the things that will give you fulfillment and joy. Happiness and fulfillment are two different things. For example, getting married or having children is a fulfillment. It is something you desire. However, getting married or having children does not bring happiness to you, for you must create the happiness before and after marriage and children. It is up to you to look within yourself and find happiness. Realize how precious you are and how much you have to give. Regardless of your flaws, you must learn to accept yourself and find joy in being you. Whether you concentrate on the way you look, the way others see you, or the errors which you make, happiness comes as you progressively accept yourself. Regardless of what you have or what you don't have. Love and cherish who you are. Fully accept yourself today! Start making a change about the way you view yourself. Accept yourself without question. Be happy with yourself and don't let anyone stop you from loving yourself completely. No matter how much or how little you have, be happy. Of course, continue to strive, grow, reach for your dreams and goals, becoming better in all parts of your life. Be happy to be you. You are truly one of a kind. Learn to take steps to improve the way you feel about your happiness. 

Happiness is Gratitude
Being able to appreciate what you have now is a key element in being happy. Don't wait to appreciate it later or realize what you have only after it is gone. Appreciate and be grateful now. From the minute you wake up, appreciate being able to see a new exciting beautiful day full of new discoveries and achievements. Appreciate every single thing (from a smile, a glass of water, to a  loving voice). Write down the things that you appreciate in your journal/diary. Never take anything for granted. Decide to truly believe that what you have today is enough for you.

Tips: Don't expect or allow someone else to take control of your happiness. No matter what may be done or said by others, happiness lies in the way you view your surroundings, your obstacles and yourself. Nothing and no one can  create true happiness for you except you. Find out what makes you happy and continue to create happiness for yourself through your actions.

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Who's the Enemy Here?
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May 2008

        Sometimes we tend to be our own worst enemy when it comes to accomplishing our goals. Before you can realize your potential you may find yourself focusing on the negatives, procrastinating, lacking a serious approach, or simply not being motivated. By doing any of the mentioned, you may be poisoning your mind. In turn, your goals simply drift away and eventually become unrealistic to you. Let's review some of the obstacles that may be keeping some of us from achieving our goals and what to do to get back the zeal.

Unsure of Self Wants
        Being unsure of what you really want can be a trap to doubting yourself. If you are not sure of your wants it may be difficult to find the motivation to accomplish your goals. In this case, the first step you will need to take is to evaluate your goals. Find out if your current goals are what you really want and specifically what will make you happy. Be honest with yourself in this process. Happiness is key. By reaching your goals you should feel fulfilled and have a blissful state of mind. So be aware of determining what will be best for you. During your evaluation, you may find that what you are working towards is far from what you really want. Finding out what you truly desire can assist you in building the faith and believe in yourself that you need to succeed. Once you have a clear vision of your wants you can focus and be motivated to accomplish your goals.

You Never Know Until You Try
        We may ignore the need to make efforts to accomplish our goals. This form of thinking could be "It will not work" without actually making an effort to see what will happen if you tried. You simply give up before even trying. This is what keeps most ideas from developing. It's very easy to just decide not to work towards an idea or goal. You must remember that when you don't try, you will never know what could have been. Imagine if some of the greatest inventors never moved forward with their ideas. Suppose they didn't try? Where would we be as a society today? You may never know your capability, until you try.

Good Ideas
        Whatever aspirations you may seek, ask yourself if your goals are realistic? For example, let's say I want to go to the moon, by myself, without getting on a space shuttle. Is this realistic? No. It would be impossible. So really investigate and make sure your goals are realistic. However, just because something does not sound like it can be done does not mean you can't find away to get it done. A great example of this would be learning to sing or dance. Even if I was really an awful dancer or singer with training I can improve. Realistically, I might not be great at it at first but I could potentially be one of the greatest singers or dancers in history. Of course, with time and determination. And yes, with lots of practice.

See Yourself How You Want Others to See You
        How can we expect others to have faith in us when we don't posses that same faith for ourselves? If you expect others to believe in you then you will have to be the one to convince them. Believing in yourself means feeling confident in who you are, what you want, and what you do. Having full confidence in yourself will strengthen you in accomplishing you goals. When you believe in yourself, your confidence will attract others. Thus, they will see you the way you see yourself. This doesn't mean that every single person on earth will believe in you but the majority will because they can feel your confidence and strength. Yes, the same applies in reverse as well. If you lack confidence in yourself others will also share the same view. Believing in yourself and building your confidence is an on going process. At times, you may find that you have confidence in yourself in certain situations and lack confidence in others. Find resources on how to work towards believing in yourself by visiting our tool web page.

Fearing Rejection
        Some of us fear succeeding because we fear rejection. It may seem hard to believe but it's true. For example: Suppose you do try to accomplish your goals and then you get shut down or "rejected". To some this may mean that success will never come. Which is not true. Many times it takes a great amount of rejection before you can accomplish some of your goals. So, in advance prepare yourself for this phase and look forward to it. If you are prepared for rejection it will not be a fear but a step or a building block in getting you where you want to be. This will give you the determination to overcome any obstacle that comes your way and strengthen you as you continue to move forward.

Even if it takes you a life time to accomplish your goals and live your dreams, stick to them.

"You have to dream, you have to have a vision, and you have to set a goal for yourself ..." Gregory Peck




Attributes of You
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April 2008

Have you ever found yourself admiring others? Most likely you are admiring attributes and qualities that you would like to have yourself. Usually, you have not found the right strategies to assist you in implementing these attributes. However, whatever it is that you admire finding away to implement them and making them yours is very simple. Start today to live the attributes you admire by evaluating yourself, understanding why you desire certain attributes and learn how to implement strategies to assist you.

Write your attributes.

What are attributes and qualities that you possess? 

Consult with a trustworthy close friends and family. They will be able to tell you some of your qualities. You can also ask for just positives. Many friends when given the chance to share will not always be so positive. Make it clear to your friend that you want your positive attributes and qualities. If you decide you want to hear the things that you are not so good at that can wait for a latter time. However, be ready for whatever they will say. If you are not ready for this phase don't ask. But if you think you can handle it go for it. If you can't wait then be prepared and don't be offended.

Think of situations and experiences in your life where you have displayed certain qualities. There are many stories, events and situations where we may have been brave, strong, confident, honest, or even courageous. Don't be afraid to list them. Boost if you have to to get your list done. Give yourself credit for all your attributes and qualities. It tends to be very difficult for us to give ourselves complements don't be afraid to do so.

Write attributes you want to gain.

It may seem as though it may be difficult to write out what attributes you admire or would like to gain. However, as you begin this process it will only get easier. Think of others that have certain attributes that you admire. Evaluate why you admire their qualities. You may feel a desire to observe them and see why exactly you admire them. Or think of someone that has made an impact on your or has inspired you. What did they do or say that made you feel inspired?

Write how you will build the attributes and qualities you desire.


A crucial step that seems to be ignored often is how you will build the attributes you desire. You have to be able to give yourself steps to building these attributes and qualities.

Write
down ways to build your desired  attribute will help you reach your goal and also give you the time to implement the attribute in your daily activities.

Dedicate a  time frame to each quality. By dedicating a time frame you will be able to keep better track of your success.

Evaluate
your progress. Continue to evaluate yourself and update your progress in order to properly gage your improvement and be amazed as to how far you have come.

Two Examples:
Quality I Admire: Courageous
Observation:
Sally is so courageous and is very confident in herself. I like that quality and I want to feel confident in myself.
Ways to build:
I will enroll in a public speaking class.
Time Limit: 2 months
Update: Gave a speech for my public speaking class graduation.

Quality I Admire: Dependability
Observation:
My best friend Kim is so dependable. She is committed to doing whatever she says she will do. I want to be dependable.
Ways to build:
I will be at least 20 minutes early prior to my engagements.
Ways to build: I will complete every task on time.
Time Limit: 1 month
Update: Followed my 20 minutes rule & will continue to follow it. Have noticed that I stress less. I accomplish so much by being early.  Assisted Kim in finishing her latest sawing project!

You can repeat these step for all attributes you desire or you would like to improve on. You can also continue to improve on the same qualities gain and again. Remember to stick to your time frame and to press forward updating your progress. Move on to the most important step. Make it apart of your life. Live it!

Tip: If you are unable to accomplish your set goal in building your desired attributes by your desired time frame simply set a new time frame. Try to work at a good time frame that works for you but don't give up. If you stick to your set goals they will stick to you.




What's Important?
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February 2008

It is important to take time out for ourselves and not always aspire to be a character in a comic strip (at all times).

Busy Busy Busy
Our world is so full of tasks, at times we get so involved in doing (for others) that we may totally forget about ourselves. You can try to excuse yourself by using the "I don't have the time" statement. Yes, time flies and sometimes it takes us right along with it. However, that doesn't mean you should forget to stop to give yourselves time to reflect, think and recuperate. We must make the time to stop, breath and relax.

Feeling Guilty & Irresponsible
In some cases, as you are taking this time for yourself you may find yourself more concentrated on how much time you are wasting just relaxing. You may also feel that you could be using the time to do "other important" things. Reality check, the first and most important thing you need to feel guilty and irresponsible about is not taking care of yourself. Also, it takes energy to do for others. Where are you going to get the strength you need to do for others if you don't find the time to energize yourself. So, I say to you, ignore the tempting urge to think that you are wasting time, instead realize that you are not doing any good (for anyone) by not taking a time-out.
If you don't take proper care of yourself (including taking a break) you might find yourself drained and exhausted. Taking a time-out will give you balance and you will feel a sense of renewed energy and strength. Taking time for yourself should always be a top priority for you. Don't ever dismiss the urge to take a break.

Daily Task
Taking time for yourself is something that is necessary and  should be done daily. Plan within your daily schedule a time to rejuvenate. Even for just five minutes. Think of it this way: taking time for yourself is a service. Just as you serve others you must learn to serve yourself. The time you take for yourself is worth more then you can imagine. You'll reap the rewards. Do something good for yourself everyday - take some "me" time.

Taking time to yourself can be ...

refreshing and energizing
stress relieving and perfect way to pamper yourselves
spiritually uplifting and physically empowering
mind stimulating and idea conducive
peaceful and enjoyable
a great way to meditate and is therapeutic


Tip: No matter what you decide to do on your time out, truly focus on you and don't let your thoughts slip into thinking about others.




Loving Yourself Today
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January 2008

We sometimes depend so much on how others see us or what others say about us in order to determine who we are or interpret the way we feel about ourselves. You will find that deciding to listen to what others are saying in order to define yourself can be exhausting, results in a negative outcome and destructive to yourself esteem and confidence. Loving yourself should solely depend on you rather then on what others may say or think.

Telling people who you are by being just as you are. Loving yourself today starts with you telling the world, "This is me. Take me as I am!".

Appreciate Yourself
Appreciate yourself completely. This includes appreciating your trails and errors. Love yourself just as you are. You have a divine role as a woman. You are a beautiful strong woman. You have been blessed with many talents and gifts. You are a unique individual with so much to give. Love the woman you are today. Be confident in yourself and find ways to express yourself and share you gifts.

Laugh At Yourself
When you think back to something that you did that was embarrassing do you tend to punish yourself? Remember that we all make embarrassing mistakes. We all fall hard at times. It's fine to laugh at yourself, learning is wonderful and embracing your life completely is amazing. Laugh is a great away to let go of issues and problems. It can also be a healing process. Don't take yourself so seriously. Make time to laugh at your struggles and the things that have you have grown from. Enjoy yourself, including the clumsy you.

Comfort Yourself
When your struggling or going through hard times you can learn to encourage yourself of a better tomorrow. Learn to embrace yourself and find power within. Letting other comfort you can work wonders, however, giving yourself a reassurance that it things will work out can really strengthen your esteem and give you  power and strength.

Do It Yourself
Don't expect others to do things for you. Be in charge and in control of what happens around you. Take initiative. Take control. Learn to do thing on your own and be empowered buy having the skills to get thing accomplished. Be assertive. Take charge of today and live your better tomorrow.

Back Pat Yourself
When you accomplish or achieve something that you have worked hard for give yourself a big pat on the back. You are a hard worker and you deserve to enjoy success. Go out with a close friend(s) and celebrate your achievements.

Stand for Yourself
When someone is right about something learn to take correction and build yourself. We are all learning each day. Learn to better yourself. However, always stand for your self in dignity. Be firm in who you are and what makes you a strong woman. Don't let others push your around. Stand for what you believe in and what you believe to be right. Don't let anyone else other then yourself determine who you are, who you should be or what you do. You are the only one that can make yourself happy and can keep yourself happy. Be free to choose what you want in your life. No matter what you choose make choices that will lead you to a better future and a better you. Don't settle for less.
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Take Advantage of Your Features We all have features that we adore. Your eyes, lips, hair and so on. Your features can help you heighten your looks. So take advantage of your features. Find ways to bring out those unique, beautiful and fabulous features. Hair If your favorite feature is your hair, focus on color and style. Keep in mind that colors that may not appeal to you can be among the colors that may work for you. colors  wearing. Find styles that accentuate the texture and beauty of your mane. Get a hairstylist who and can assist you professionally. If you prefer to color your hair stick to colors that bring out your face or other features such as lips and eyes. Skin Glowing, clean and smooth skin can really boost your confidence. If you have skin problems contact a professional skin doctor or dermatologist. Following simple rules such as drinking 8 glasses of water, washing your face everyday (when wearing makeup washing before bed) can really go a long way. However, speaking with a professional can really help you with your individual situation. If you already have great skin, focus on shades and tones. Knowing the colors that work well with your complexion can help you choose outfits. Other Features Features such as lips, eyes, etc can be heightened by using colors. For eyes, wear shirts and makeup that brings attention to them. You can contact a professional makeup artist to find out what colors work the best for your eyes and lips. If your feature is your eyelashes, smiles, etc you can still take advantage. Go light on makeup and focus on your lashes or simply smiling more often can help you take advantage. Find ways to bring out the feature you adore. Help Me Color Match Do you feel like your clothes never match? Do you wish the world was set in black and white so that fashion wouldn't be so complected? Although thoughts of hiring a fashion guru may sound enticing, learning the rules of today's fashion world can revive your view of color. So don't stress, step away from film noir, put down the yellow pages and read this article. By the time you have finished reading this article, you will have ideas of how color can rejuvenate your closet and give you the confidence to wear every and any color imaginable. Yellow & Green is the new black and white. It is sophisticated and has a touch of freshness. Look for full green or yellow assembles and pair it with accessories such as a bag and shoes of the other color. For example if you are wearing a green outfit accessorize it with yellow accessories and vice versa. Blue & Brown gives you a chic look. There are plenty of great light/dark brown tops that look great with blue slacks. Dresses are another great way to combine the two colors. Also consider wearing jeans with brown tops. Black & White are colors that you can always count on. You can pretty much wear these color by themselves or with other colors. These two colors when assembled together can make a classic statement. One that you just can't resist but to love. Must have black and white attires include black slacks, white shirts both long and short-sleeved, and of course the famous black dress. Black is a uniform color. Black can do what no other color can. Black blends, styles, and resolves color problems quickly and simply. You can always rely on the black to pull you through any fashion madness you may encounter. Black also does wonders with accessories.  A great example of this is the black purse or black pumps. No matter the occasion a black purse or black pumps can turn your simple assemble to a chic stylish outfit. So, when in doubt go for black. Red is one of the bold colors and goes well with almost anything. However, since red can be overwhelming or distracting, combine red assembles with subtle calm colors. The one thing to look out for when it comes to red is how you assemble it with other bold colors. The subtleness of other colors will help it blend in with your attire and not make your wardrobe look awkwardness. Pink & Purple are very feminine colors. They are very beautiful colors that can be favored if you find the right shade that works for your skin tone. See our article on color tones. However, be careful how you mix these colors since they can be very similar depending on the shade. Other Colors & Matching is simply a matter of knowing which colors work with each other. at works with what. With the outlined color concepts we have discusses this far you can kind tell what colors work with what. Try sorting colors by looking at the primary colors and choose the right matches from there. Patterns & Multiple Fabrics are definite no-no's when combined. Stay away from wearing multiple patterns at the same time. Patterns are not meant to be blended but to make a statement all on their own. Multiple patterns gives a disorganized and unsorted look. Stick to one patter in your outfit at a time. Also remember that when wearing patterns stick to accessories of one color that matches the pattern. An example of great pattern coordination is wearing a patterned flowery dress with red pumps and red clutch. The red pumps and red clutch should also match exactly the redness of the pattern in the dress.  As far as fabrics go, stick to one texture at a time. Fabrics should be consistent and not jump from one elaborate texture to another. For example don't wear silk and suede at the same time. It is not attractive and usually makes your outfit look awkward. End of story.
Best Outfit For Any Interview I have received several Ask Celes questions on what to wear to an interview. With so many different types of interviews the answer to the question remains the same. Below you will find the answer to what outfit fits your specific interview or any interview. No Matter The Job ny and all interviews deserve the same professional attire. Do not think that just because you are going to a certain type of interview it justifies wearing something more causal or less professional. You want to make a great impression. Always go dressed to impress. Remember that the interviewer thinks very highly of his or her company and wants you to feel that same way with the way you present yourself. Slack & Skirt Suits ou really can not go wrong with paint suits. As long as you stay within the preferred colors you can make any suit work. Wearing a skirt suit can also be a great fit for your interview. As long as your skirt is knee length you will have no problem feeling uncomfortable or making the interviewer feel uncomfortable. The last thing you want to do is give the interviewer the wrong impression. Skirts that are not too flashy or over-the-top with designs. If you plan to wear a skirt suit make sure that the skirt and jacket are made of the same fabric. Favored Colors & Your Style here is not a specific color that you have to abide by, however, there are certain colors that are definite interview colors. If you are not quite sure if your suit color is appropriate stick to the definite colors which are black and navy blue. You can make the suit yours by adding your own personal sense of style. An example of your own sense of style is the design of the suit. Find a suit that fits your style and complements your shape. Read Esteem Yourself Article: Wrongs & Rights Of A Suit  The Inside Shirt When in doubt about the color of a shirt for an interview it's best to stick with what will definitely work. With interviews, what definitely works is white. if you are not sure of the inside shirt that would be best then stick with a white shirt. However, if you are wearing an all black attire you can also accommodate your outfit with a black shirt or an all blue attire with a matching blue shirt. If you really want to go for a colored shirt stick with colors that are simple and fits nicely with your attire. Stay away from bright-colored shirts. Shoes & Accessories No open toe shoes or casual shoes. Wear close toe shoes. Stay away from shoe colors that are bright/loud. When in doubt stick to black dress shoes. Limit your accessories. One bracelet and small stud earrings will do the job. Comfort & Confidence Most important thing to remember about what you wear to an interview is how you feel in it. Your suit should make you feel great. You should feel comfortable. You should feel confident. You should feel empowered by your suit.  Your Image Matters If you were to see yourself walking down the street what would you think of yourself? When we see someone for the very first time we don't always get the best impression of who they are, yet the first impression is usually how we evaluate them. We automatically register our first impression of any individual with the database "stereotypes" we acquire through our personal experiences, statistics, the media, friends, etc. In turn, we formulate who we "assume" an individual may be in a matter of seconds. We may judge them based on their wardrobe, makeup, hair, car, voice (accent), and so forth. Then we make assumptions on their personality, lifestyle, and interests. Sometimes we may be right on target with the first impression, however, many times we are very wrong. What you see is not always what you get. Say you meet person A, who looks like they haven't taken a bath in a couple of days, how would you react to them? Would it be the same way you would react to person B, who looks fresh and clean? The irony is that these two individuals could be the opposite of what you see and you would not even know. Person B who looks like they took a bath might not have taken a bath for months but person A took a bath and unfortunately got dirty during the day for whatever reason. Thus, your perception of person A and B could be totally wrong and you were misguided by their image. Another example of first impressions theory: Person A and B are going to an interview for the same job. They both arrive at the same time. The interviewer approaches both of the interviewees, person A and B. Person A's clothing is disorderly, wrinkled, and maybe is not quiet appropriate for an interview. Person B's clothing is orderly, clean and they look sharp and are wearing interview appropriate clothing. Who should get the job? Which person will the interviewer want to interview and why? Though sad but very true, the interviewer may have already chosen a candidate (because of the first impression of person A and . Shopping For Outfits If there is no way out of a shopping trip make sure you go early in the morning to avoid the long lines. Take time to really find the best outfit for you. Search for outfits that will not only work well for the event that you are attending but will also go great with your wardrobe. During your shopping trip, keep in mind that finding the right out should mean finding an outfit that can be worn to multiple events the out the year. Assembling Your Accessories Who doesn't like a collection of great bags or shoes? Many women adore their handbags and shoes, collecting them by the dozens. However, for those who are unable to collect shoes and bags by the dozen or those who may want to find new ways to wear the old, let's look at some of your options. Simplify Items that are used to heighten your style and complement your attire can make or brake your ideal vision of your fashion style. To stay connected to the fashion statement you have in mind focus on  your outfit when it comes to wearing accessories. Keeping your accessories simple and detail oriented is essential. Bags & Shoes When shopping for bags and shoes focus on durability, wardrobe driven colors, multiple outfit coordination and style/occasion. With so many fancy and cute bags it may be hard to really focus on the onces that will work for you. When selecting bags search for bags that accommodate your needs. Purchasing shoes can be very difficult. Stay away from purchases shoes that keep you uncomfortable. Necklaces, Bracelet, Earrings & Other Accessories When looking for the right necklace or bracelet to adore your outfit the type of occasion you are attending should determine your accessories. Also consider your own personal style and what makes you unique. Don't be afraid to wear an accessory that complements your own sense of style. However, be sure to limit the amount no matter the occasion. In many cases less is more.Tips: Stay away from buying items that you will only wear once. This will leave you with limited amount of coordination and limits your spending ability. Go for the accessories that can give you the most for your money. Shop for What Is Right For You What we wear influences the way we feel about our appearance. Stay within your size limit and only purchase outfits that fit. Find the right colors/shades. You may find that certain colors and shades work better for you. Purchase what feels comfortable. If you are not comfortable with an outfit don't purchase it. Regardless of discounts and inexpensive clothing purchasing outfits that complement your figure. So to answer the commonly asked question: Do I look fat in this? No. As long as you focus on keeping you body healthy, you will not only look great you will feel great too. Tips: Learn to be confident in the way you look and love your style by clicking here. How Do You Imagine Your Image? So, what do these two examples have to do with you? Well, first don't judge a book (person) by it's (their) cover (persona), however, be ready to be judged by yours. As we judge, the person being judged may be the most kindest, compassionate and trustworthy person you will ever meet but we may never know because we have already stereotyped them unfairly. However, we all are constantly judging and being judge merely on our appearance which seems to be a natural process that is very difficult to control but can be saved by us balancing the urge to give each individual a chance even after our first impression of them. attention it is very obvious that your dress will be most likely suitable for the wedding. However, as difficult as it may seem to outdress the bride some people sure know how to dress up for an event. Unless you are a bridesmaid or maid of honor stay away from overdoing it (i.e. ballroom style dresses). Look for dresses that do not draw attention to you. Also consider your hairstyle as well as accessories. If you are wear a simple dress then you should be fine. Stay close to common colors in stead of bright of the wall colors. Whether the bride is your best friend or you are in the grooms party remember that it is the bride's day. You are there to support the bride. It is her day to shine. Hey, she deserves it and you deserve to be confident, comfortable, and radiant in whatever you choose to wear. The last thing you want to remember when you see picture of the wedding (which will be an eternal reminder) is how much you disliked your dress or worst how embraced you felt wearing it. Tip: Try to get specific dress code requirements. If you are able to find out exactly the type of attire (i.e. casual, formal, etc.) the wedding party is requesting, work within the specific attire category and don't shift from it. 
Your Perfect Little Black Dress Every woman needs the perfect little black dress (lbd). Whether you are going to a party, a date or attending a special event, the perfect lbd works for any and all occasions. However, finding the perfect lbd can sometimes be over-whelming and frustrating. There are a few simple guidelines to follow in the process of finding your perfect lbd. Do Your Research Before attempting to shop for your lbd spend sometime researching what style of dress you prefer. There are a variety of choices, from designers to several styles. Take your time in selecting which designer or style you prefer. Also consider your budget. How much are you willing to spend on your dress? If you are not sure where to start looking, ask a friend who knows you well enough to recommend a place that suits your style. Be especially attentive when speaking to friends that share your fashion sense and style. On-Line Shopping Don't expect the perfect dress to drop out of the sky. Be ready to do some serious shopping. If you decide to shop on-line make sure that the dress can be returned with a full refund just in case it doesn'tfit properly. In addition, there's always the what-you-saw-is-not-what-you-got aspect of on-line shopping. Even if you are not planning to shop on-line, you may find it very helpful to search through the different styles on-line first. This way, you will be able to consider your options right in the comfort of your own home before you make the journey to the store. By browsing on-line you will at least know what stores that sell the styles you like. Of course, once you get to the store, trying on the lbd may present a whole new set of trials.  Eventually you will find your perfect lbd. Your Comfort Make sure that the dress you buy will be comfortable. The last thing you want is to feel uncomfortable in your lbd. When searching for the right dress don't make the mistake of thinking that you can somehow make it work. If you see a dress that looks great on the rack but when on you is all too unflattering. Don't be fool! Do not buy this dress! Even if it appears to be what you were looking for. Simply, place the dress where you found it and step away. Continue your search.100% Satisfied We sometimes make the mistake of buying outfits that we may not be totally in favor. However, because of our desire to have it, we ignore our intuition and proceed to make the purchase. You might find yourself thinking, "I'll just lose a few pounds," "I'll get it tailored," "There has to be something in my closet that will help this outfit," "It's just so cute and in style!"  These are some of the excuses that you may find yourself making in order to justify your purchase. Even with all the excuses these items just end up taking space in your closet. You may wind up never actually wearing it though you may continue telling yourself that you will. Save yourself the trouble. Don't look for a lbd that doesn't satisfy you one hundred percent! Your "Perfect" LBD It's amazing how an outfit can boost your esteem, build your confidence, make you feel elegant and accent your beauty. If there is such an article of clothing, your lbd should be it. When you put on the perfect dress you will know it. There will be no denying the feeling of, "I want this dress. Now!" You will feel elegant and beautiful. It will be perfect. That's why it will be the perfect little black dress for you! Black's Not My Color So you don't think you look flattering in black. Pick the color that works for you. Make sure the color you pick is a color that complements your look, color, shade and style. Once you have picked the color try to find the right dress that will not be to distracting in that specific color. Stay away from colors that are too bright. If you are going out to an evening event it may be to distracting or you may simply feel out of place. Especially when you see everyone else in more calm and neutral colors. Less Is More Jewelry - Make sure that your jewelry is befitting for your dress. Don't over do it. Keep it nice and simple. A simple bracelet and earrings should be enough. You want to let your dress do all the work. Your jewelry should be complementing your dress not overshadowing. So, don't over do it with jewelry. Shoes & Purse - Your shoes and purse should be simple and elegant. Pick the shoes and purse to make your dress fit the occasion. With the right shoes and purse you will indeed look and feel like a million bucks. Make-up - Your make-up should be very subtle. This way your natural beauty will complement your attire. Try wearing natural colors to blend in with the elegance and simplicity of your attire. Save It Once you are all dressed up, make sure you document your look by taking a picture of yourself. Take a picture of the dress and the accessories that worked with the dress. This way you can go back when you want to re-do the look. Plus, who doesn't want to see the dress that made your look and feel gorgeous! There are so many ways to accessorize according to the latest fashions and reintroduce your lbd. You should be able to wear your lbd over and over again! Have you found the prefect lbd? Tell us you experience.
Who Doesn't Like An Extra Pair Of Shoes? As you walk into a shoe store, you find it. The perfect shoes. Yes, it's the one. The one you have been searching for that will complete all your wardrobe coordination problems. It can be yours for a steep amount. Since you just got your eagerly awaited paycheck, you speed to the counter and check out. Now, you can finally add it to the hundred and twenty-four shoes you already own. Which by the way, are in your closet collecting dust. When you take a close look at your closet, do you find that you have a slew of clothing, shoes, purses and accessories that you barely use? Do you have a closet full of clothes, yet can't find anything to wear? Do you have clothes that you have either out grown or don't fit anymore? Are some of the clothes in your closet not appealing to you? Do you spend 10 to 15 minutes looking for an outfit to wear? Have you bought a shirt, pant or accessory, just to find out that you already have one just like it? Are your clothes scattered and you have no clue how to start to organize your closet? Any of these wardrobe mismanagement situations can happen for one or more reasons. Not having a proper way to organize, manage and wear your clothes can be frustrating and leave you feeling hopeless. Not being able to find ways to coordinate colors, styles and designs could make you feel like your left without many wardrobe choices. Also, simply having an urge to buy items spontaneously or splurge can build-up a perplex wardrobe situation. Organize & Revamp
Most of us don't wear every single item in our closet. At times, we may not even realize it, since we are interested in the main outfits that we love. So we ignore the rest. However, not realizing that the underused items could be beneficial to us as well if organized properly. You can make the most out of every single piece of (wanted) clothing (as well as shoes, purses and accessories) and finally achieve organization by revamping your closet. However, to do this efficiently, you must be willing to start from scratch.- Remove all articles of clothing, shoes, purses, etc (from closet). This way you will be able to fully account for all items. - Evaluate what you like about each piece, placing them with outfits that either coordinate or are similar. - Group clothing by sections and colors (black shirts, blue slacks, black paints, blue jeans, white tees, etc). - Arrange each piece of clothing within your closet back, sorting them into categorizes. - Fold clothes that don't have a great chance of wrinkling. - Hang clothes that may wrinkle. You may also decide to be specific in how and where you hang expensive, work or particular occasion clothing. Use durable hangers (keeps clothes from falling and keeps closet neater). - Toss unwanted items (doesn't fit, out of style, don't appeal to you, unwearable, even the ones you "think" you might wear but you know you never do).
- Take note of what article of clothing you have, keeping in mind the items that you don't wear often. This will help you implement underused items in your outfits. Likewise, you will know what you need and what you already own. It will also assist you in making better choices in outfit decisions, so you can wear every piece of clothing. You may even feel like you are wearing a new outfit everyday, since you have an organized variety to select from. Lucky you!
GoodwillAll the clothes, shoes, purses that fit the "toss" category (doesn't fit, out of style, don't appeal to you, unwearable, will never wear) should be immediately sent to goodwill or to other charity donation facilities and organizations. Be ready to take this step of permanently giving your clothes away. Sometimes, we get really attached to certain items that it may be difficult (even painful) to let them go. But once you have made a decision, stick to it. You are serving and assisting others. Be proud of yourself. Spontaneous Shopper Sometime, you may buy an article of clothing and in a matter of days or months forget that you bought the item. You may then go shopping latter and buy a similar item (or even the same item) not remembering that you have it at home. Other times, you will decide to buy an item spontaneously, not sure how or what it will coordinate with. However, with an organized closet, before attempting to go shopping just taking a quick look at what you already have may save you lots of money and time. Once you have taken the step of evaluating the items in your closet, you can be aware of the type of clothing that will add variety to your wardrobe and coordinate with your style. With the continuous up-keep of your closet (once you have revamped and organized it) many of these spontaneous shopping dilemmas will cease. Splurging There is nothing wrong with splurging once in a while. However, some of us can't help but to shop spontaneously and splurge often. You may have an urge to buy. If you can't help yourself, then shop for (or buy) things that can improve your life and future security. - Invest your money in something that can give you some future reassurance like mutual funds, Roth IRAs, college savings, etc. - Extra mortgage payment can come in handy. Take your extra spending money and pay more on your mortgage. Talk to your mortgage company to see what their polices are when it comes to extra payments. Find out if it can benefit you to make extra payments. Or simply put the extra amount in a savings account for emergency mortgage payment. - Pay off Debt. Credit cards, loans, car payments, medical bills, etc. - Safer items. Invest in buying a safer car (reliability and protection), emergency preparedness items (food storage), environmentally friendly items (go green). - Save for rainy days. Rainy days happen. When the rain comes it usually pours. Be ready for the storm. Save, save, save. It will come in handy. - Go on quality vacations. Ok, so some of us just like to work and don't really care very much about the money, however, most of us make money to feed our family, pay bills and have (hopefully) a little extra to spend on what we would really like to do. Which is usually spend it on ourselves, our family members or friends. So do it! Save as much as you can and go on a vacation with those you love! You've been working so hard, take a break! In the end, any of us wouldn't mind having an extra pairs of shoes but what matters is that we put it to good use. Let's be grateful for what we have and not take any thing (whether it's a article of clothing or something of much more value) for granted, invest for our future instead of having frequent spontaneous spending, and simply give to others so they can be able to put their best foot forward. Don't Spend A Million Bucks When you look through a magazine you may not be able to afford the items but you can still afford the style. You don't have to spend a ton of money to achieve your desired look. Learn to achieve the look you want without breaking the bank. Copy Cat If you just have to have that magazine outfit or style, becoming a copy cat may be your best bet. Try to copy the style to the very last detail. For example, if a short sleeve shirt has lace around the top of the neck area look for a short sleeve shirt that has lace around the neck area. Get as specific as possible. You may have to do a lot of searching to recreate the look, however, if you just look for the individual pieces gradually eventually you will acheieve your desired look. Recreating an outfit can be fun especially when you spend a lots less then the original outfit.
Stay Focused When shopping for a particular style or outfit you saw in a magazine try to focus on the style and design of the outfit. Do not focus on the color until you find the style of outfit. The more it appear to be the same look and design that better the outfit will turn out to assemble the outfit you are trying to recreate. Specific Style or Special Occasions If you are searching for a certain style, shopping on line can give you the ability to narrow the store that have your choices. Special occasion outfits can be trick especially if you don't know what type of wardrobe the occasion calls far. Find ways to narrow your style for the occasion by finding out as much details as possible about the occasion. If you are unsure as to what type of outfit a certain occasion requires then do some serious research before the day of the event. Uniqueness It always great to add your own style and uniqueness to the outfit. There is nothing more you then to add your own sense of style and taste to a particular outfit. One you have accomplished the style you want add your own personal touch to make it simply yours. So, the next time you look through a magazine or see someone with an outfit that you just love, know that you can afford the style by shopping inexpensively for the same outfit. Wrongs & Rights Of A Suit When it comes to finding the perfect suit don't settle for one that is unflattering and uncomfortable. Finding the right fit, style, comfort and color in a suit is crucial when finding the perfect suit for you. Learn to differentiate the right ways to purchasing a suit from the wrong ways. Fit Wrong: Feeling awkward and uncomfortable. Not feeling one hundred percent confidence. Right: Feeling confident. Knowing that it fits perfectly. It makes you look great and it is tailored to your shape. Cost Wrong: Buying the first suit that looks like it will fit. Assuming that the more expensive the suit the better. Right: Trying on several suits from different stores to get the perfect fit and the perfect price for your budget. Style Wrong: Looking for styles that does not fit your personality. It will only make you feel uncomfortable and will not boost your confidence. Right: Searching for suits that fit your own unique style. You will feel both comfortable and confident. Color Wrong: The colors will not fit your style or color shades. Right: Sticking to the shade of colors that are best for your skin tone. Looking for colors that goes with your skin tone. Find your skin tone colors by clicking here. Tips: Don't forget that the inside shirt and accessories that you incorporate with your suit can really accent the look of your suit.
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